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11 Reasons You're Failing

August 1, 2011

I want to do great things and make a positive impact on other people's lives.
I want to be one of those people that other people look at and ask how on earth does he get all that done... and still write his wife love songs?

This post is going to be a post I look back to each week to make sure that I'm making progress in the direction I want to go.

Take Care of Yourself First!
Like the safety warning you receive when flying (to put the air mask on yourself first and your children second), you have to take care of yourself first. This means physically and mentally. This is not easy if you have children, a job, or any other responsibility! But it's critical that you do. If you're married, getting your wife or husband on board with this makes it a lot easier. Encourage each other to workout and eat healthy.

Unless you can help yourself no one will expect, or trust, you to help them.
You can't really imagine the disheveled drunk from the street corner walking into the Whitehouse and telling the President and Congress how to solve the debt problem (although he could do a better job than the current fiasco administration I'm sure)... You can't help anyone else until you can help yourself.

11 Reasons We Fail
God has given us everything we need to succeed... I'm not kidding, it's really true.
If we're struggling then we're have one, or more, of the following issues... at times I think I suffer from all 11!

We don't believe that we can - I call this the Eeyore syndrome.
We are filled with fear (related to #1). The thing about fear is that it usually does not appear as fear. It's usually masked behind well thought-out and polished sets of reasons and excuses. This also shows up as "we don't believe we deserve it".
We have underlying problems that are eating away at us. Financial, relationship, health, you name it. If we're not facing or dealing with it, then it's festering and fermenting and souring our subconscious. This undermines anything and everything we're trying to do. We may not be able to solve the problems, but the minute we start facing them we start making progress.
We don't see the resources and raw materials that we have available to us. This can be physical as well as thoughts and ideas (creativity).
We see the resources and raw materials we have, but don't see the path to use them.
We ignore God's plan in favor of our own: we want to be a ballerina and we weigh 350lbs and have bad knees (see paragraph about taking care of yourself!). If we're constantly feeling like a salmon swimming upstream then we're probably not doing what we're supposed to be doing with our life.
We are slaves to bad, detrimental, or time-wasting habits.
We are selfish.
We ignore or don't ask for help and guidance.
We listen to the wrong people. Satan succeeds by confusion and division... and he's very, very good at it. What? You don't think Satan is involved. Wrong. Evil is real: it does not want you to succeed and create anything good for yourself or the world - lest of all help other people succeed and create something good for the world.
We care about what people think or who gets the credit.

Until next time,
Fred

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From: Cindi @ Chiropractic Marketing

Love the analogy and it is so true. You have to take care of you in order to take care of others, you have to live your faith in order to minister to others and you have to believe in yourself in order to encourage others.
Posted by Cindi @ Chiropractic Marketing on August 1, 2011 5:02 PM
From: Janalyn Voigt

Well stated. Or, as I remember reading somewhere else, get the log out of your own eye so you can see to remove the splinter in your neighbor's eye.

Posted by Janalyn Voigt on August 2, 2011 10:23 PM
From: Michel Blaze

The most important part is to believe in yourself and remove your fear. When you become fearless in things that time you do things. The above points if worked upon will be helpful in making you in gaining huge success.
Posted by Michel Blaze on August 3, 2011 7:36 AM
From: Steve

good list to question yourself and some good points/reasons - but it is important to use the answers for this questions to be prepared next time. btw: nice picture ;)
Posted by Steve on August 7, 2011 12:15 PM
From: Velo

I must admit - I find all of the above mentioned points to be of great relevance. You really hit the nail on his head with this article. A point I would like to comment on is the part about looking after yourself first. I believe this to extremely important as I have experienced what a healthy diet and some exercise can do for the soul. It truly does improve your life. Great post man! Thanks
Posted by Velo on August 15, 2011 2:31 AM
From: Catherine

Yes, you are right. We should believe in ourselves and move forward all time...Good one!
Posted by Catherine on August 18, 2011 8:18 AM
From: omar zupdates

some good motivational stuff you have here. I think I suffer from the number 9 myself sometimes. Whether it is a matter of ego or just ignorance.
Posted by omar zupdates on August 24, 2011 1:36 PM
From: James

Not believing in yourself is actually a crucial mistake most people do. Everything else starts from there.
Posted by James on August 31, 2011 9:06 AM
From: Geoff

You make some excellent points about why some fail. Too many think of the Internet as a short cut to riches, but it takes hard work and dedication to be successful.
Posted by Geoff on September 1, 2011 10:19 AM
From: Michael @ Aged Insurance Leads

I couldn't agree with you more. We as people are so easily distracted with Satan's ploys that we ignore God's plan for our life. Satan appeals to our selfish desires and many times we take his bait. Also you make a good point about time wasting habits. How many hours are wasted each week in front of the television that could be spent more productively.
Posted by Michael @ Aged Insurance Leads on September 4, 2011 12:41 PM
From: Dr. Robert Doebler

Fred,

This is an awesome post! I believe you are a godly person. One of the reasons that people fail is that when finding for their purpose, they begin in asking themselves, what they want etc. They fail to start with God. Thanks for posting this one.
Posted by Dr. Robert Doebler on September 12, 2011 11:00 PM
From: J from German Translation

I like the guy's picture! He looks desperate ;)
Posted by J from German Translation on September 15, 2011 4:03 AM
From: Greg @ knotts berry farm coupons

I think the 12th reason that we fail would be that we are too tired after the end of a work day to do anything that would better our selves. I encourage everybody to work out because it gives you energy all throughout the day!
Posted by Greg @ knotts berry farm coupons on October 1, 2011 2:29 AM
From: Helson Su

Thanks for sharing. Failure is the process to be success.
Posted by Helson Su on October 10, 2011 12:04 PM
From: Mike @ renewable energy information

Great article! I was guilty of a number of these things a few years back and really didn't start seeing success until I began to believe in myself and have faith the Lord would guide me in the right direction. It's amazing what a little positivity can do for someone.
Posted by Mike @ renewable energy information on October 14, 2011 3:59 PM
From: Rob Benwell

Fantastic Ideas. Its an eye opener to those who think that they're looser. We need to deal and face our problem or fear. Our most dangerous enemy is our own self.

Posted by Rob Benwell on October 18, 2011 6:57 AM
From: Faizan Ali

hmm thanks for this SuperB post thanks.you have to live your faith in order to minister to others and you have to believe in yourself in order to encourage others.
Posted by Faizan Ali on October 29, 2011 2:11 AM
From: Andy Nathan

Giving up is the most dangerous thing to me.... no matter what ever happens, the show must go on
Posted by Andy Nathan on November 5, 2011 12:34 AM
From: Hector

I think people are most scared of failing than they actually attract failure in the things they set out to do. The best thing to do is practice telling yourself you can succeed in what ever you want to do an face it with all courage... Great post!
Posted by Hector on November 12, 2011 9:39 AM
From: Kelly

The only reason for failure to me is giving up. The moment we give up, we loose the battle, so we should keep on trying to reach our destination. By the way, thanks for this interesting post
Posted by Kelly on December 1, 2011 2:31 PM
From: OsCommerce

The biggest problem of mine is that i underestimate myself and dont have enough courage and self-confidence sometimes, i'm afraid of mistakes or smth like that...
Posted by OsCommerce on February 10, 2012 8:54 AM
From: Luis

All going after money, after the success, after the fortune, after the latest and newest, but the success and fortune do not make sense if we have NO HEALTH. Discover the secrets of my vibrant health and reach their dreams .
Posted by Luis on February 13, 2012 4:45 PM
From: Rizza Gamutan

Yes, I believe that is true! People tend to have many flaws and they are so engrossed with that. If only there was one way to relieve them from their burdens, this should be the article they should read.
Posted by Rizza Gamutan on February 15, 2012 9:03 PM
From: Nikki Elizabeth

I spent a lot of time last year realizing I needed to take care of myself first, though I felt guilty doing so because I was trying to help other people in need.
Posted by Nikki Elizabeth on March 20, 2012 10:31 PM
From: cpm ads

You have to be very stubborn in pursuit to the goal and not give up. It will certainly reduce the chance of failure. Some say that you have to be crazy hehe.
Posted by cpm ads on April 8, 2012 2:56 PM
From: Scripter

O, No, so many problems hit us from all possible directions and we are simply tied against them, no way we have to face it, cant fly...
Posted by Scripter on June 27, 2012 6:39 AM
From: John gray

The points that you have mention are great.But what are answers of all the points.
Posted by John gray on July 4, 2012 7:52 AM
From: Ade from free stuff site

Peolpe who fail alot may be doing so because they do not really want to succeed. They may tell you they want something really badly but deep down they feel they do not really deserve what they want. They then try only half heartedly and the inevitable happens... failure.It is an unfortunate stae of affairs but once you have failed the next failure doesnt seem quite as devastating so further failures dont hurt so much.
Posted by Ade from free stuff site on July 4, 2012 5:20 PM
From: Jessica@Car Dealer Advertising

Its one of your best and most helpful post till date.. Great stuff again from your side, glad to be a part of your blog. Thanks Fred for your wonderful writing!!
Posted by Jessica@Car Dealer Advertising on July 11, 2012 8:20 AM
From: Karina Matuszek

Well written. Great post! I think everything starts with first two points. Once you will get to understand that on the bottom of everything lays fear and that actually there is nothing to be afraid of, because even if you will fail it will not really change anything, you can always start over..and once you will start to believe that actually you can achieve a lot.. you will find the solution for the rest. At least you will start to look for answers :)
Posted by Karina Matuszek on July 19, 2012 5:43 PM
From: Stanley Rao

This is so true and it i agree what ever is done should be done without any fear and with a clear understanding.
Posted by Stanley Rao on August 14, 2012 12:05 AM
From: John _ Senior Care Advisor

A very nice blog entry. In particular it is good that you include some of the 'items' that many other blogs on the topic overlook. Here I particularly allude to: 1_Being too selfish. 2_Not asking for help and advice when it is needed and 3_Worrying too much about who gets the credit and what other people might think.
Posted by John _ Senior Care Advisor on August 15, 2012 6:17 PM
From: David

Going through the list, I realised that there are some reasons up there as to why I personally fail. thanks for highlighting..
Posted by David on August 25, 2012 6:09 AM
From: Bedrijfsfilm

Most of them are right, I think the best one is reason 2: "We are filled with fear". If you want to be an succesful entrepreneur, you can't have fear. Most people who have not the guts to try something will never succeed.
Posted by Bedrijfsfilm on August 27, 2012 8:04 AM
From: Alex I.

The eeyore syndrome is horrible. You can do anything if you push and build your will power.
Posted by Alex I. on September 7, 2012 12:50 PM
From: Ben

Haha Eeyore syndrome! I've been guilty of this too much in my life, and need to sort it out so that I feel confident all the time!
Posted by Ben on September 23, 2012 6:18 PM
From: Anderson

Thank you for this article, as I had seen from my encounters and conversations with people, who reads and what they read. Their mouth speak of their thoughts, which at times shows which is their concern, their priority, what is in their hearts.
Posted by Anderson on September 25, 2012 7:03 AM
From: cletus

Very Useful, Thanks for sharing your idea. More power to you and keep posting.
Posted by cletus on September 27, 2012 2:00 AM
From: Paul

Believing in oneself is the key to success.Also it is essential to cast your fears off as Michael has rightly said.This article has helped me tremendously and it continues to inspire other readers.I myself lack in many of the points that are listed in this article and I would try to develop and become stronger on these points because the inability to do so will have a direct impact on my performance and will limit my success rate.

Posted by Paul on October 15, 2012 7:22 AM
From: Leena Dasot

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Posted by Leena Dasot on October 25, 2012 12:21 PM
From: Bruno Babic

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Having gone through my 7 year long hurting drama of trying to figure out how to make money online, I must tell you that you now have made me feel much more confident and knowledgeable on how to go about improving my online presence in order to start making money on the internet.

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Bruno Babic
Posted by Bruno Babic on October 28, 2012 4:42 PM
From: richard parker

Thanks for sharing these important points failure is to be taken as a escalated process towards success...
Posted by richard parker on December 26, 2012 10:48 PM
From: Gregor

#1 and #2 really hit the nail on the head. Fear can make us fail in so many way - fear of failiure and fear of success (can't decide which one is more ironic), fear of judgement from other people, fear of the unknown etc.
Posted by Gregor on April 22, 2013 8:24 PM